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Being over 40 is not what it used to be!

Many women and men are becoming parents for the first time at age 40, 45, 50 or older AND even more in their “Golden Decade” are adding to their families. Many couples are opting for adoption, using traditional or gestational surrogacy, using advanced reproductive therapies (ART) like IVF or ICSI, donor egg or donor sperm, donor embryos and even having their babies “the old-fashioned way!” Since there are so many options for older couples, it is becoming more common to be a “grandma-mom-to-be”….even women in their 60s have had children in recent years via egg donation….so if you have a story to share or are just curious about the newest trend in new parenthood, come on in and have a look!

Reproduction is a basic biologic drive in all animals, including us humans. From early life we are bombarded with the importance of it through images in advertising, television, and other sources that either hint of sexuality or are so blatant as to leave no doubt of their purpose. All advertisers know “sex sells.” Our libraries are full of books about romance, sexuality, and reproduction. Love and sexual desire are the themes or a large percent of music, movies, and shows.

This desire does not necessarily wane with age. The desire to ‘mother’ knows no age limit. More and more women are opting for motherhood later in life. For some it’s an addition to an already established family, for others it’s a late first pregnancy after pursuing other life goals/careers. The number of women having babies after forty has doubled in the last ten years.

In reflection we may look back and realize that, earlier in our lives, we were not quite as mature, not quite as ready to deal with the responsibility of pregnancy and the inevitable family life to follow. Or maybe there were private issues to deal with first?

The majority of women in their forties or fifties who choose to start (or add to) their families are usually established in their lives both financially and emotionally. These are really wanted pregnancies.

If you are considering pregnancy later in life it is recommended that (as with all pregnancies) you get your own health under control first. This includes making appropriate nutrition and lifestyle decisions: exercising sensibly, eating a healthy diet, reducing stress levels where possible, getting plenty of rest and seeking appropriate medical advice preferably before conception.

Having children later in life can impact both the mother and baby’s health. Although the risks are significantly increased in mature pregnancies, the vast majority do very well. The greatest danger for most of us is ignorance, the more information you have, relevant of course to you own individual situation, the better.

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